All of us have them, those dreaded days where you feel that things could not get any worse or what feels like all your difficulties are coming all in one instance, and goals seem unachievable. This post is meant to reflect on how to get through those types of days.
Tip # 1: Pray, Pray, Pray
It’s important to perform your daily prayers while having a bad day or feeling like you are having a setback in life. In fact it becomes actually a remedy and helps keep you focused. It takes your mind off of your difficulties and helps keep you focused on your true purpose in life. It helps you realize that prayer is not a burden, but more of a safe haven.
Tip #2: Stick to most of your To-Do list
When you are trying to obtain goals, you hopefully have a list or some type of reminder to remind yourself of daily tasks that you need to accomplish in order to achieve your goals. When suffering from a setback on your goals or in life in general, it’s important to try to do as much as you can on your list. It makes you feel like you are actually working towards your goals, and refocuses your energy, negative thoughts, and feelings you are having at the moment into something productive. When things seem out of control, it’s important to remind yourself of what it is that you can control and what you can do to move forward so that you regain some of that control, and feel more at peace.
Tip # 3: Talk to your Squad
That squad might be a set of friends, your family, or your parents. Either way sometimes when you just talk out how you are feeling, you’ll be surprised at how light you feel afterwards. It helps to have a verbal purge sometimes of your feelings (not the best use of words, try to get through the image this just created in your head) so that you can feel better afterwards. They might be able to give you helpful advise and the thoughts that you had in your head that are making you feel so anxious that you have now said out loud to another human being that you trust might not feel as a heavy load as they once were in your mind.
Tip #: Remind Yourself….
That setbacks are a part of achieving your goals. It might seem totally contradictory, but setbacks are a part of the goal attainment process. Everyone always has great ideas of what to do to achieve or plan your goals, but it’s important to remind yourself that failure is a part of the process and is meant to teach us something about ourselves. Achieving goals is not this straight narrow process that we put down on paper or create in our heads, it’s a journey with its setbacks and epic triumphs, so embrace your journey because it is uniquely yours. I will leave you with this awesome quote from a speech I heard a long time ago by J.K. Rowling (The Fringe Benefits of Failures). “The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity.”