Assalamu Alaykum! Ramadan Mubarak from all of us at H Sisters. May we all use this month to build healthy habits and make our hearts soft through the Quran. This month is usually full of great reflections and thoughts that are otherwise lacking in other months. The barakah of this month! Every day this month we will inshaAllah post a short reflection that reshaped our negative thoughts to more positive ones and made us realize of the great Rahma of this month. Please be sure to check this space out every day this month and feel free to leave us with your own reflections or random thoughts in the comments section. We love hearing from you guys!
The number one thing I’ve learned about parenting is that firstly, parenting is 90% about fixing yourself first. Secondly, it’s about knowing your unique child and figuring out what works for them.
After reading all about what kids need, how different kids need different things, and about the stages of toddlerhood; I realized that the most important work I have to do is on myself, not them. (more…)
Writing has been on my mind a lot. But the topics seem to be jumbled up. Lately I’ve been trying to discuss my focus on a positive lifestyle but haven’t quite figured out the way to go about it. Writer’s block I guess. Then I hear the news. The sad news. Of the death of my uncle. My uncle with no real health issues. The father of the cousins who made my childhood so memorable. The shock has been so real and I’m utterly speechless as to what this is. To Allah we belong and to him we will return. That sounds perfect. My heavy heart finds rest in Allah’s words. Allah is the only eternal one, free of any needs. After the solace of Allah’s words, is just the natural sadness of the loss. The loss of this great man with a heart warming smile that was always on his face. The wonderfully sweet manners. I feel sorry for my cousins. My aunt. Everyone close to him who will feel his absence way more than me. And I pray Allah gives them ease during this hard time. I am also reminded of the reality of death. How sudden it can be. How life is going normally one day until it’s not going at all. It’s stopped. The only thing that really matters is how we behave in between life and death. If after we forget, we remember. If after we hurt, we apologize. If after we wrong, we right. If after we sin, we repent. I hope his image of me was anything close to what my image of him was. Because to me he was a great and loving man. May Allah give him ease in the grave and give him ease on the day of judgement. May Allah give him jannatul firdous without hisab. May Allah give his whole family ease. May Allah guide us all and make us all among those whom He loves. Ameen
I attended a very beneficial session by Shaykh Yaser Birjas during this past ICNA 2014 in Baltimore, Maryland so I thought I’d share them with you guys. Below are my notes on the 10 ways ego can cause downfall of your marital life by Shaykh Yaser Birjas. May you find benefit in them. Ameen!
1. Ego will make you half-blind
You only see your side of the story and you’re not ready to see the other half of the truth. In order to open your mind, give it a chance and expect yourself to be wrong.
2. Ego will make you a bitter arguer
This will cause a bitter cycle of who’s right and who’s wrong. The argument is no longer about the actual argument, but whether or not you can prove that you are right even when you’re not.