“You don’t need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.”
After 5 years of marriage, I’ve come to realize that in order to have a happy marriage there must be acceptance. Learning to accept your spouse’s personality and habits without wanting to change it is one of the keys to a happy household. I’ve learned to accept that the best way to bring up a point is to show him rather than talk to him about it. I’ve learned to accept that we are so different in so many ways yet so alike as well. This acceptance comes from the realization of the fact that both of us have chosento be in this marriage. In this day and age where we both have economic freedom, and other freedoms there’s nothing really that is forcing us to be together. We want to be together and when we let go of this expectation of our spouse acting/reacting/being a certain way, and we just accept them for who they are, a beautiful thing happens, they begin to accept us and give us exactly what we have been looking for in the marriage. What had you learned from your married life? Please share. The longer you are married, the more you have to share 🙂
People always blame the parents and more so the mother when their kids misbehave. Yet, when the kids are successful those same people forget to give credit to the parents and often credit the kids themselves for their success. This is similar to our relationship with Allah at times. We are able to do good and we praise ourselves, yet when we fall short or fall into sin we blame Allah for not giving us the opportunity to do good or we blame shaytan for leading us that way. You should always remember where you came from. And remember to give credit where credit is due.
1. It gives you a sense of security …that same secure feeling you felt when growing up in your parents’ house, over time you feel that with your spouse.
2. You are always learning. Through good times and bad you are constantly learning about the other person and about yourself.
3. It makes you grow. Having the best Ikhlaq (manners) with your spouse is so much harder than having it with others. Hence you learn to work on your character and it makes you grow into a better person inshaAllah.(more…)
I remember learning the Quran as something academic; something I had to learn to read as a Muslim. It was never explained to me WHY I was learning to read this, nor was it explained to me what this book actually was. Most of us grew up this way through no fault of those who raised us. We learned how to read the Quran but never did we learn that it was the guidance for our life, never was the relationship with the quran stressed. We learned the Quran from people who had memorized the Quran but didn’t necessarily understand it, or had a relationship with it themselves. Hence many times we were threatened with punishment if we didn’t read it correctly. As my son begins to hit the age of three and as I start to figure out how I am going to teach him, there are some things in my mind that I have promised to do/or not do when it comes to teaching the Quran. Here’s a list of those:
1. I must love the Quran, have a relationship with the Quran and understand its importance in order to teach my kids to love this book and turn to it for Guidance. Have you ever taken a class from a professor that really loves what he is teaching? If you have you will realize that when they love it, it is so easy to love learning it even if it is not a subject that you like. This is how I want my kids to learn and I want them to be around teachers who teach them because they love the Quran themselves.(more…)