This Ramadan I came across an article (or a few), by Sadaf Farooqi.
The Nuances of Sincerity.
This specific article actually tackles not only a person’s own struggle to be sincere in their lives, but also helpful advice about toxic people. And who hasn’t dealt with toxic people? Sometimes we don’t have to interact with them daily but other times as we grow up we see that maybe in our past some people were toxic in our lives or currently we have been dealing with them and not realizing it. This isn’t to draw attention to them but rather to ourselves in how to stay sincere in spite of those people. And it occurred to me that there’s a link between toxic people in our lives and productivity. Toxic people in our lives drag us down. And usually that dragging down comes at a price. We feel down or pulled into negativity for a bit and it takes effort to really pull out of it. If we keep doing this day in and day out, that daily struggle actually drains our energy which could be better used for more productive things like living life the way we want and the way we hope by pleasing Allah and doing good. When these toxic people come in the way it takes time and energy and struggle to push it back out and when you look back you realize you could have finished many projects if you hadn’t been so caught up in unnecessary baggage that wasn’t even yours. To understand more I hope you read the article and as a mental health resolution, try to focus on what matters to you and less on those toxic people or thoughts.
May Allah make us sincere people who are productive in doing good in our lives. May we be protected from toxic people and thoughts. May we always be able to see reality as it really is. Ameen.
Sometimes we plan big plans in Ramadan. Sometimes we jump right in and start without a thought. Whatever our case, when we come out of Ramadan, something is different. I’ve tried to plan and think of things I want to accomplish in ramadan. Having kids has made that a bit more difficult. I know easier times lie ahead but this year I didn’t write down my plans. I just wanted to notice what was before making a bunch of plans I might not follow through on. I wanted to see what clutter was in my life and let Ramadan help me sort it out. I noticed some emotions I didn’t like so I worked on those. Knowing for the whole month that I own these feelings. They are my own. I also noticed habits that were my own and noticed no one is pushing my buttons. I am responsible for me. I also looked at things I was doing that I liked. I did more of those. And through the month I persisted in just these small things. I felt they were small because I had not planned them out. At the end I noticed that they were big things. They left me truly changed. And that is the best feeling. To know that change is possible in this month and to know how easy it is made for us is a true blessing. This change I hope to carry and I hope to continue to do even better. To strive to better myself and accept the changes as they come. Accept them as easily as I accepted the coming of Ramadan.
May Allah change us all for the better. May we all be guided to the straight path through our changes. May we please Allah with all of our soul. Ameen.
I feel like sometimes as we go through our mundane lifestyles, we have a fixed emotion. We have a serious outlook on life and a need to just pursue the next task at hand. Maybe that’s not everyone but I feel sometimes we don’t acknowledge our inner soul and see what it’s been craving. Alhumdulillah for Ramadan because fasting during this month and doing good deeds helps to get in touch with our soul. And lately I’ve felt that we have been lacking in our hope of Allah. The hope that because we are on the right path, that everything will be ok in the end. The hope that Allah wants us to be happy and be true to our nature and our soul. The hope that we are strong enough to overcome any challenge that we face and that we are never alone. Hope allows the soul to gently smile and be at peace. It helps fuel us to be our best selves. It gives us optimism in a sometimes not so positive world. And it can act as a drive for us to do better than we did yesterday. I have hope in us. I have hope in or tomorrow. I have hope in Allah. May Allah give us hope and optimism to navigate this world. May He give us hope and courage to be our best and true selves. May He give us strength to not lose hope when times get tough. Ameen.
Granted there are hangry moments during our fasting days of Ramadan, there are still lessons we can learn. One thing to notice is how energy is decreased naturally. Even if we get angry, we tend to lose energy fairly quickly and can’t fully hang onto our anger or let problems dwell for too long. We don’t have that strong willpower inside to be so angry. But most of all it gives a sense of perspective at the unnecessary moments of anger in and outside of Ramadan. Times where we tend to lash out or boil inside and it hurts no one but us. This realization of what anger is doing to us essentially helps to make us better. It helps to create a need to lose all the anger and stop wasting energy. And hopefully this helps to remove anger in unwanted ways from impacting our lives outside of Ramadan. Hopefully this helps to turn our life into a more meaningful and positive one and create more happy moments rather than angry ones. May Allah guide us and keep us strong enough to quiet our angry selves. May He help us control the unwanted anger and do things that only please Him. Ameen.