The fasting in Ramadan automatically slows down your life and more importantly your thoughts. The decreased energy from fasting means you are less likely to jump from one thought to the next without thoroughly thinking about whether this thought helps you in life. This plays a role in us paying attention to what we are thinking and fixing our thinking process if necessary. Not all our thoughts are productive or positive. The fasting in Ramadan allows you to slow down enough to pay attention to those thoughts that are harmful to our character and overall growth and further pushes us to replace those thoughts with genuine positive ones.
It’s so very hard to keep up in the momentum of this thing called life. Even if at some point in life you may have so many things going perfect for you, God tests you and throws some curve balls in the mix to see how you deal with them. As believers, we strive to face these tests with patience, believing that Allah (swt) will help us get through the struggle. However, that is easier said than done. Sometimes when things aren’t going so well for you it is so hard to find the blessings in disguise at that certain moment. You could doubt yourself and your ability to overcome your struggles. You could begin thinking negatively and responding with angst in almost every situation because of the stress it has put on you. But something that has helped me that a dear friend once told me, is that in that certain moment you should just make Dua. Make dua that Allah give you strength to overcome the struggle and that He reward you for even going through it. That really helped me put things into perspective. Allah, the Most Merciful is there for you when no one else is. He knows what you’re going through when no one else gets it. He and only He can help you through it and allow you to seek the patience and reward for going through that difficulty. Going back to Allah and realizing that your happiness is completely dependent upon your relationship with Him is the key to finding the strength to get through these tests and difficulties in life.
Alhamdulillah Allah blessed me with a wonderful healthy baby girl 3 months ago. And in dealing with some rough complications during my recovery, I have found that the most helpful thing to me was seeing my duaas get answered. And even if that duaa took ages to get answered – I knew that Allah was listening to me. That is motivation. That is the struggle. Sometimes you don’t see your duaa getting answered. That does not mean He did not listen. That does not mean you won’t be rewarded for it in the next life or through another situation unbeknownst to you. How amazing is that? It is so important to REFLECT on the fact that Allah will still give you if you ask Him. There’s no limit. There’s no LIMIT because He loves you and wants the best for you. And that is what helps me to find the motivation during such difficult times. Knowing that my love for Him was all that matters because He is always with you and will always be there for you so long as you seek Him through troubling times and continue to worship Him in the blessed good times as well.
It only takes a couple of days of not eating to realize how much informational junk our minds take in on a daily basis. In this age of technology and social media there is so much useless information our mind are use to absorbing leading to a cluttered brain and unfocused lives. Ramadan teaches us again what is useful and what is not. I am able to see how ridiculous that show was that I binge watched or how some articles I read make no sense and are not worth my time. Ramadan teaches us that the Quran is useful, the seerah is useful, pursuing your passions is useful, mending your family relationships is useful and the list goes on. The taqwa that is attained in Ramadan pushes our consciousness to judge if the action I am doing is helping or hurting my deen and/or my dunya and this in turn makes us realize what actions I should pursue and which I should leave.
This month is one where emotions become controlled. That anger problem you had before? Well there is no energy anymore to get angry. Little things that use to make us upset or sad no longer do because the mind is sharp to realize that those were petty things that don’t deserve our focus. Our focus goes automatically towards gratitude, and positive thinking. All the sudden things that we used to take so seriously before we can find humor in it now and laugh at it. This is the month where my husband and I laugh the most at our kids’ shenanigans. Whereas before I would have days where I took life too seriously and thought I was a failed parent if my kids acted uh……… well like kids. 🙂 Alhamdullilah this month rebuilds that humor and the fasting controls our emotions so we are able to see a situation for what it is without putting our emotions into it.